Wednesday, 24 November 2010
Last night I snuggled up with my ill lil man, chest infection & asthma = moany bubba :( whilst I watched this year’s season of THE FAMILY channel 4, 9pm Tuesdays: http://www.channel4.com/programmes/the-family ! I don’t think I’ve ever experienced sooooo many emotions whilst watching a programme before !lol! My opinion watch it, I thoroughly enjoyed it!
After watching The Family though, I took a call from a long time friend of mine who I always manage to get into DEEP head ache causing convo’s with !lol! We did all the usual phone call pleasantries that you do with old skool friends. Then the convo went onto how time is flying and how old we’re getting, how shocked I am @ how quickly my 27th year has gone..........Blah blah blah! Then came the topic of RELATIONSHIPS!!!!!(YAWN) Now why I’ve chosen to blog about this is because the way my friend tackled the topic in regards to relationships, nearly and please may I reiterated nearly made me feel a lil immature lol and childish in regards to my set in stone opinions! I admit on the most part I am childish at the best of times but to be nearly convinced/ swayed to see a person’s point of view when in actual fact on a normal day you couldn’t even be moved by it was a lil unnerving for me! Please note I have full permission to document this convo!lol!
THE TOPIC- Settling down or dating someone who has dated a person within YOUR SOCIAL CIRCLE OR CLOSER!:0
So we talked about the whole settling down thing that most 25+ year olds think about @ some point and debated, then came the clanger so I’ve started dating this girl that used to go out with my mate .........!!!!! I WAS IN SHOCK and had to say pardon!!!lol! For me the whole topic kinda makes my skin crawl, I suppose this is due to 1) my friends and I have completely different tastes in men and 2) If we both agree that a gentlemen is quite dashing or you know facially/physically blessed, as soon as he’s eye’s start to flutter in the direction of any of my friends male or female the gloss kinda disappears for me they just become any ole Norman lol (i.e. nice, a friend maybe but that’s it....there shall be no more drawling, my mouth goes arid landscape dry)!
My compardres main argument was this: Finding someone to settle down with nowadays that is quality, is like finding a needle in a hay stack! If a relationship is over and by that he meant TRULY over i.e. no ambiguous unresolved feelings & its ended amicably, then why would you disregards a person just because they USED to date a friend, acquaintance or family member!!!
So Farah as she is was all aghast, tut tutting, shaking her head and was thinking HELL NO....THIS DOESN’T SOUND RIGHT, but then he drops but if the relationship between two adults is truly over why would it matter!!!!!! Why would an individual feel betrayed, awkward, upset, uncomfortable any of those things, unless they still had unresolved emotions in regards to their ex!! He also said there definitely shouldn’t be any feelings if the person is currently in a relationship as this isn’t a good sign for their current relationship!!! Now initially I was like whatever mate, still doesn’t sound right! Then came the but if the person you HAD previously been in a relationship with couldn’t make you happy and you were blatantly not destined to be with them, but unfortunately it has come to light that they make someone that you know happy ; they are destined to be together i.e. get married, set up house, have loads of beautiful mini-thems and live happily ever after why would you waste your time being bitter about their union ( not that I’d be bitter loool)!!!! At this point my resolve started to sway........
Now here’s the thing my friend had loads of valid points that for some reason I’m finding difficult to articulate through written word, stuff like the longevity of the relationship, the relationship that you had/have with your FRIEND (i.e. are they an acquaintance, best friends yada yada yaa) and loads more stuff that I’ve forgotten but I still think it’s a bit eeeeeeewwwwww!
I suppose each to their own! If it makes you happy do your thing as long as you don’t end up hurting anybody but for me it’s STILL a skin crawling topic and a DEFINITE NO! If you’ve even had an opportunity to breathe your sweet breath in the face of any of my friends then you are an ‘untouchable’ to me, but as I’m currently in a relationship none of this applies to me hehe, unless one of my friends decided to date an ex of mine @ which point all I can do is wish them LUCK!LOL!Oh yeah and finally i do think if you are aware that your friend has unresolved feeling in regards to an ex and you would still go there, your behaviour would be considered that of a WASTE person!lol! Enough ranting!
Farah then scratches her head, wondering how others feel about this, as my argument felt a lil weak after being hit with all the unresolved emotions talk, lmao.! Let me know! :)
Thursday, 18 November 2010
I swear from the ages of about 18-24 my friends and club promoters saw me more than my own family!lol! Mum, dad or lil bro usually only ever saw my mascara streamed face over breakfast, where I'd gunt 'water...fooooodddd' whilst the tunes from the night before casually drummed causing me muchos pain in my HEAD!!:( For the most part during this period my slick hair do's, over priced but slick dresses, madeup face (Farah's an impatient, haha 3rd person writing lol, therefore make up has & will always be aplied in a basic manner-eyeshadow,mascara,vasaline & lip gloss, I only got brave enough to start using eyeliner a few years back lol) mainly flaunted themselves @ Stretch promoted pardy's!!!
Lemme introduce you to my mate Stretch a member of the team that has been the brains behind raves such as 20:20, Strawbery Jam and many other sucessful party's....
Ladies, ladies, ladies refrain yourselves now and mop up that drawl!!!
Focus now back to the point!!! If you have never had the pleasure of attending one of the named raves above uuuuuuurrrrmmmm where HELL have you been your early teens to mid 20's missed out mate, I have memories for days of frizzy hair & brand new dress full of bobbles, due to the non stop dancing ( Y bobbles you may ask???lol Use your imagination folks). I have memories of slurged speech and random conversations due to non stop drinking and I've met a lot of people that I now consider good friends!!
Best memory of all time one of my girlies for the sake of this post I shall name her 'Trouble' grabbed this innocent bystanding young man bellowing into he's ear 'You got, you got, you got, what it takes to make me leave man' J-Lo in the house haha @ which point the grin spreading alcross Mr mans face disappeared as 'Trouble' had walked off mid sung sentence!lol! It was classic!!No he didn't have what he thought he had, as one) Trouble was single and two) was slighly piddled!lol! 'BB Innocent face'!hehe
Anywhooooo back to the point in a nutshell all of the party's created/promoted by this group of peeps have been the type that you leave feeling satisfied, feet burning, hair a mess and eyes barley focused!! This NYE they'll be throwing a BIG but PRIVATE PAAAaaaaarrrrrrddddyyyyyy! Woop woop!
The details are as follows:
'A vintage City of London location with a small capacity of 250 over 3 floors with a VIP section may I add this is where the party will be @ the vibe will be JUST LIKE A HOUSE PARTY!!
They'll have an array of Mixologists(Top DJs) ALL playing EVERYTHING POSSIBLE!! With music requests avaliable!
THE VIBE IS GONNA BE CRAZY…..GUARANTEED!!!
The party kicks off @ 10pm until 5am
VIPs will be privy to a champagne reception and tasty nibbles And finally……….This is NOT a MASS MARKETED event so mums the word lol……So you should feel SPEeeeeeeCIAL!!
How much is it? I hear you ask…£15 for all mate, can you go wrong…..uuuurrrmmmm NO!!One Five for NYE!!
Tickets are available all that needs to be done is…….RSVP to the FB event page….
Now I know a lot of people no longer do NEW YEARS EVE partying anymore as
ITS OVER HYPED,
THE PARTY ALWAYS GETS LOCKED OFF,
THERE ARE TOO MANY PEOPLE,
HUGE ANTI CLIMAX,
OVERPAID NONSENSE DJS,
NO VIBE,…..THE LIST GOES ON AND ON ON….. BLAH BLAH BLAH…'
Now that I'm a mumma I value my nights out and boy, oh boy am I excited about this NYE! I have stayed in for NYE for the last 3 years....but you shall be seeing me dancing my NYE into 2011 @ this event folks!!!
So, I'm back from holiday blacker than ever, ready to bring the NY in, as I mean the year to go on...NO NOT DRUNK, just on a GOOD vibe so come join me......Yes we all No Farah loves a PARDY!!!
.......BE AMONGST GOOD POSITIVE PEOPLE
IN A SMASHING ATMOSPHERE WITH CHEAP DRINK AND AMAZING MUSIC QUALITY……THIS IS FOR YOU!!! YEAH…YOU!!
Friday, 12 November 2010
2. Maintaining curly hair is quite expensive if you’re an impatient ‘can I be bothered to make my own products’ kinda girl like me!! :0 example, I purchased the kids curly- Q leave-in conditioner @ £10 last Saturday from Charlie's, Goldhalwk road (haha advertising ;) ) and let’s put it this way I’m half way through it already......HHHhhhhhhmmmmmm time to have tea and biscuits with the Lotto man me thinks!!!!:/
Anyways back to the title of the post The CURL/WAVE off! So there am I, at work minding my own when one of the girlies pings me on the bb, we have a few laughs and she says: ‘how the curls going curly sue’
I say ‘They are going well thanx, although I am currently on a mission to have a head full of healthy curls...I shall be curly Rapunzel’. Which is one of the silliest things I’ve ever said, maybe it isn’t BUT here are the facts when my hair's straight it falls a lil below my collar bone BUT when it is curly, I truly look like lil ANNIE from the musical (you no 'the dumb dog, why are you following me! I ain’t got a crumb dog how about letting me beeeeee, I ain’t gonna feed you, don’t get a drat for you, need yooouuuuu’ ok got a lil carried away! Sorwwwiii) lol! Our resemblance is only hair wise off course lol, well not even hair colour wise or curl type wise,aaaarrrrggggh getting to technical but I’m hoping you get my drift! My hair shrinks soooooo much that the first time my dad and then my partner saw me they just stared moving their heads this way and that until they uttered ‘uuuuuuurrrrrmmmm why did you cut your hair’! MEN you gots ta luv em......
Anywayz my friend Ms Cherry-Fara-Much obviously her mother would argue that this is not that name that is written on her birth certificate but this is the name that she goes by lol says ‘well I’m on a mission to have the perfect wave through my au natural hair’.
I’m like ‘ok, ok......’ at which point Ms Cherry throws into the mix ‘let’s do the summer challenge and see who has the best curl/wave’..... ‘I’m taking my natural hair ting seriously now...’she says!!!
WELL HELL YEAH FARAH LOVE AH CHALLENGE DON’T SHE! :D
So I reply ‘Woooooow come we do this hehe! Mine will win I have tight individual springy curls! looool Beat that woman!!!!’
At which she responds ‘Well I have cutie pie waves, we gonna have to have a show down in May before the bank holiday, so that we can get our hair did-did looking its best and have a standoff. We can have independent adjudicators. Be ready to eat my WAVY DUST'
‘Haha’ I chuckle ‘It’s a challenge! My curls will be bouncing you and your bouncy booty up on outta here!!!!’
Her final words ‘Haa haaaaahhaaa ok fine we’ll see...but be prepared to be tadaaad and AMAZED’
Ok I admitted it, the most worrying thing about this post is that we are both 25 plus, educated, hardworking women (she’s an account and I a HR advisor) and I’d like to think we're both quite mature, although this post suggests otherwise lol!
I’m siked up re the challenge though, so Ms Cherry or Ruffy as I call her, the end of May shall be her in the blink of an eye! Me and you..... Have your waves in tip top condition lady as my curls shall be hard to beat Wahahhhhaaaaaahhhhaaaa!
Friday, 5 November 2010
I’m always the one out of all my friends exclaiming ‘Omg I NOW fall into the 25-30 age category’ on equal op’s forms and ‘Jeeeezzzzzz I’d be in the over 25’s category, with dry ole unimaginative Louis Walsh if I were to enter the X-factor....’!! Not to say that anyone would want to hear me howling like a drowning cat!! :/ Moving on......
Louis Walsh- Now would you want this dude to mentor the beginnings of your musical career!!!:/
So during my younger years, a time when my waistline’s size didn’t really matter...I’m such a liar, It’s always mattered! lol! Anyway during a time that I was a very self conscious young lady, more knock kneed then I am now and had no financial stresses! A time when my only concern was what time I’d be jumping on my bike and hooking up with Ms Starr so that we could tour the whole of West London, skinning teef at cute boys :D and jabbering about pure nonsense, lol! The years when we were completely naive to most things, not everything but most things a BIG contributory factor being the type of school we attended. Whilst the majority of schools in the UK gave Sex Education lessons our school had ‘love, ssssss...... (I swear our head teacher didn’t actually utter the word Sex) and Marriage’ lessons. These sessions always resulted in us pupils against our head teacher, trying to say things that would completely embarrass her, it never worked though she always held her own lol!
Bad and I mean really bad (you know punch ups & on the verge of expulsion bad) didn’t really exist in our school the worst thing that happened was the pinching of the odd chocolate covered digestive biscuit from the schools pantry, yup no tuck shop we had water and apples @ break times and oh how could I forget the flicking of fountain pens @ Ms Mosses nice tweed jacket, which may I add I got mostly blamed for although I only ever had one Maths class with her. Anyways during these times I must admit some of the happiest ever, although I didn’t realise it at the time, I thought can’t wait to be a grown up, everything’s going to be soooo simple you go off to uni, get a job, get married, buy a house, have kids and live happily ever after...EVERYTHING WAS SOOOOOoooooo BLACK & WHITE in my eyes!
HOW WRONG WAS I!!!!!!
10 years later all I can say is getting older is a complicated transition lol!
I have a million more questions than I did when I was in my teens, I believe this is because when I was a teen a lot of the questions that I’d ask now I’d have been happy to leave unanswered!! I must admit though I am now A LOT more comfortable in my skin, confident and have managed to get to the point where insignificant things and beings that would have once really wound me up DON’T anymore...ok, ok yup yet another small white lie lol, things don’t bother me as much as they used to !lol!
The topics that seem to primarily rare there heads of late during convo’s with friends, family members and so forth are:
RELATIONSHIPS (with friends, the opposite sexes, the family and the list goes on)
BABY MAKING lol (Not how to, as by this age I’d be concerned if my peers didn’t know these facts but more of when and what it’s like)
And finally what the hell is wrong with the MEN and WOMEN of today....
Now that I am 25 plus, for some reason all of the above seem a lot more complex to discuss than they were 10-15 years ago.......... WHY :/ lol! I shall leave you with two pics:
A some what care free Farah at about 18/19 years old about to hit the roads for carnival- Very,very,very shy! Please ignore the terrible bed spread lol, what was i thinking!hehe!
10 years later a much more confident, although still ridiculously shy, maturer Farah- although only slightly!lol! I know many will be thinking Farah & shy in the same sentence! If you truly know me, you know!lol!
To be continued..........
Wednesday, 13 October 2010
Haha the book in my hand didn't make it unfortunately, it's gathering dust on some shelf somewhere!hehe! I also don't actually wear glasses lol! Fashion accessory- perdy sad ain't it.......lol!
Anywhooooooo, I'm currently reading Watermelon by Marian Keyes!The author of all of the below, of which I'm in love with!The books that is,not the author although i do love her writing, hehe!:/
Y I love ‘em? They are easy reads, which is all my brain can currently handle! Y? After a morning of motherly duties-breky, teeth brushing, skin washing, dressing and somewhere in between managing to do all this for myself as well! There then is the nursery drop off yup it’s always emotional! lol! Work- dealing with all sorts of HR issues-sickness, maternity, advertising, recruitment, evaluation yup you name it somehow my job description has managed to cover it!HHHHhhhhhhuuuumm!lol! Then the nursery pick up and the remaining nightly motherly duties, with the end product being a certain lil legged, lil man being tucked up in he’s bed as snug as a bug in a rug. After all of the above I can hardly string a sentences together let alone concentrate on reading a really wordy sentence, which on 1st attempts to read looks as if it were written in Swahili and then only after the 3rd read remotely makes sense! I’m not saying that I don’t like these kind of books, i do! You know those books where the plot is so thick and complicated you really have to concentrate to understand Y @ the end Anne’s brother Lucas, who was also the father of her 1st child, who lived abroad but used to live with he’s mother, killed Dianna the partner of Anne’s child, who was born a girl but is now a guy and you get my drift don’tcha!! I love em but after a 36hr working week or to be precise a 7.2hr day, I can’t settle in the evening to read one!!!
It’s either one of two things I relax and get my weekly fix of CSI,NCSI & Law and order or I kick back and get comfy, prepare my cuticles for a big chomping session, nope I don’t bite my nails @ all, I chomp my cuticle when concentrating or chew on the inside of my lip which is nice and sore after a good reading session!!:/
Marion Keyes- Well I can’t do a character reference as I don’t know her but from reading a few of her books what I have gathered is she’s Irish, loves to fill her stories with loads of Irish tid bits (you no lil customary things that the Irish tend to do), is very witty and downright funny. I blame Marion for the strange looks I get (haha yeah I feel we’re on 1st name terms lol even if she doesn’t) on route & on the way back from work. All of the looks i receive, coming from my bus route regulars who all think I have lost the plot, as would I, if I watched a girl curling up, laughing loudly, slapping her thigh, wiping a tear and then muttering to herself!!! Who could blame them really! lol! Her books are like most chick flicks on paper minus the bad acting and mush! The way they are written is right up my street!
e.g. A section from WATERMELON describing the main character mother's inability to cook:
‘My mother and culinary delights were not friends. In fact, it would be fair to say that my mother and culinary delights were barely on nodding terms.
Nightmarish memories of family dinners came flooding back to me. Was I out of my mind? What the hell did I come home for? Did I really want to starve to death?
The next time you have to lose a lot of weight quickly-that two week holiday in the sun? Your sisters wedding? A date with the office hunk?.......Just stay in our house for a couple of weeks and insist mum cooks for you.’!!!!
I’m the type that you can tell the plot of a film, book or whatever to and i can still watch, read, or whatever that film/book or whatever and thoroughly enjoy it BUT, I realise there are many folks that are out there that are soooooooooo not like me i shall give you a real short break down of what Watermenlon is about:
In a nutshell: Woman has baby, on the day of the babies birth husband walks out and confesses he’s been having an affair with dry Deirdre down the corridor ( her name isn’t actually Deidre lol BUT she’s older than the main character and the only thing I picture when hearing the name Deidre is Coronation streets & wrinkels lol! Hoping you all get the connection! lol!). The main character flees home to Ireland and goes through loads of emotions due to mad hormones and feeling rejected, the main character meets a sexy guy, whilst dealing with the breakdown of her marriage and starts to question everything!!
I must now admit that I haven’t actually completed reading this book I have another 200 and a bit pages to go but so far it’s great so ladies and any gent that may remotely be interested go take a read!!!
THIS BOOK IS FARAH RECOMMENDED!lol!
Tuesday, 28 September 2010
Anyway back to the story! I hadn’t seen my ickle Gigi for God knows how long apparently we’d seen each other @ carnival but neither of us could remember although pics told us differently! So we were due to have a reunion which we decided would be at my mate Tevalicious’s B’day extravaganza, hhhhuuummm not to sure how he’s Ma would feel about hearing that her child has been renamed but he emailed me the other day and said Hi ‘Crumbs’.....crumbs ya nah!!
I received my facebook party invite some time mid September, as all my close friends know fast I is fast, first thing I did was to google the clubs name, hadn’t been out in a while, lies I’d gone to a hen do the Saturday before!! Anywhooooo my fastness caused me to be greeted by a BIG ACCESS DIENIED, YOU ARE IN BREACH OF WORK POLICY in RED text written across my computer screen! My hands were clammy and i was looking @ my supervisor hoping she wasn’t thinking, what I’d be thinking if I saw that across her screen lol! To make matters worse @ the corner of my computer screen read for private dances the charge is £10!! Oh Lawd can we all sing P455555555555vvvvvvaaaaaahhhhaaaaahha! The moral of the tale is read facebook invites properly when originally sent, noting the small print, that during the week the club is used as a Gentleman’s Club but on weekends can be hired out privately with the pole still installed but minus ladies charging for a dance!!!:0 ‘Suit you SSSsssiirrr!!’ lol!
The 25th arrived oh so quickly and the arrangement was Gigi would come shake a leg with me as long as I came to her new gaff and got ready, which was fine by me! So after my full day of training 9-4.30 on a Saturday aaaarrrrrgggghhhh I met my lil bro’s Misses who was also muchos ready to let her hair down and we set off for our trip to outta Mongolia, so lying we jumped on a bus and made it to central London ish.....hehe!
The night went a lil something like this.......
At Gigi's we got ready whilst sipping ok lying again glugging down chilled white wine! Classy!looool!
We straightened,curled, applied, re-applied, put on fake lashes, took off fake lashes, put a pair on again then got vex and dashed them in the bin!lol! Well i did!hehe!!!
Once ready we jumped into a cab City bound!!Yyyaaaayyy! Look like Angels don't we, the poor cabbie!!hehe!
There was completely MAD behaviour!!Madams in distress are we... will definitely not be receiving any Oscars anytime soon!lol!
The cabbie had to endure Gigi's 'tink foot inna he's ear for most of the journey!!lol!
We got to the club surprisingly early uuuurrrrrrmmmmm B'day boy took black peoples time to another level, there was NO one and I mean NO one there lol, everybody was still chowing food @ the nice cosy restaurant whilst my booty froze !lol!
So we went for some drinks @ All Bar One! Let me introduce you to my worst nightmare the Jaeger Bomber Gigi's favorite drink!!Bottoms Up!!
Coupled with wine not our best idea @ all!!!:/ We fell in love with the Jaeger Bombers who wouldn't, we were a lil pickled by then!lol!
We took perdy pics!AAAAAaaaaagggg Gigi!xx
After that everything became a lil blurry!See....
No G you can not kick booty through glass!lol!
We then remembered why the hell we were in the city soooooo back to the pardy!!!More posing, vain or what!lol!
Hooked up with some of the rest of the gang plus the B'day Boooooooyyyy!:)
Certain folks be lucky I love them dearly otherwise this would not be the only get down pic I assure you!lol! Actually the amount of forced weddings I tried to setup I best sssshhhhhuuurrrrruuupp!lol!
Sunday Morning i woke to the rave still going on in my head and I also realised, as much as my mind won't allow me to acknowledge my age my body definitely is not affraid to remind me!!!:(
My recovery breakfast!!!
Stretch & Tev's this party reminded me of 20/20 Abacus!! BIG night!!:)xx
Wednesday, 15 September 2010
My hair after a wash and the application of conditioner!
Not even going to stunt like these glasses belong to me!lol! They belong to my friend but me likey so i betta go drop dem back by she house!lol!
My straight coloured hair, feeling good!
Just with a pair of GHD's run through it! To be honest with you i have to pay due's to my hairdresser friend as i'm a lazy chick who doesn't really do what she's supposed to i.e. wrap it, plait it, tie it down, etc! My hair is feeling good though and i love it!!!!xxx